POSITIVE THINKING

Change Your Life With Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or Tapping)

Last year when I started teaching about the law of attraction and the concepts in Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill at the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts, I knew it would bring up limiting beliefs in my students.

I decided to add the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) as part of our weekly classes to help shift any negative energy that came up around being worthy and capable of receiving our desires.

Because of this, I started using it even more too. It has helped my life so much.

EFT or Tapping is a great tool for eliminating negative and limiting beliefs based on the principles of acupressure. 

It is based on the theory that negative emotional experiences can disturb the energy meridians that run through your body. When you use your fingertips to tap on key points on your face and body while focusing on a problem or negative feeling, you realign the energy meridians associated with those memories and allow healing to occur. 

You start by saying a setup statement like the one below while tapping on specific points on your face and body:

“Even though I have this fear, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Through this process, you are stating that even if the worst thing about you was true, you still deeply and completely love and accept yourself anyway. So beautiful!

You can get even more specific like:

  • “Even though I worried about how I am going to get clients…”
  • “Even though I have failed in the past….”
  • “Even though I have never been good with money….”
  • “Even though I don’t feel like I should make a living doing what I love…”

You want to go deep and get honest. Always finish with “…I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

The process of EFT restores balance to your energy system and helps create self-acceptance. This is important because it releases you to take action, because then you know it’s never going to be as bad as you think. It’s a reassurance at a soul level, that everything is okay. 

You can use EFT every day if you like to clear some old emotions that reveal themselves as you grow your business and step into the role of entrepreneur.

“With EFT you become responsible for soothing or calming yourself instead of waiting for a person to change your mood, attitude, or behavior so you can feel better immediately and we know that good feelings attract good things.”

– Denise Duffield-Thomas

EFT Sequence:

Come up with a setup phrase such as “Even though I worried about how I am going to get clients…” and notice how intense this feeling is. Then repeat that phrase 3 times while tapping on the side of your hand, the karate chop point. 

Then tap around 5 to 10 times on each of these points:

  • The top of the head
  • The eyebrow, near the bridge of your nose
  • Side of the eye, near your temple
  • Under the eye
  • Under the nose
  • The crease between the chin and lip
  • The collarbone
  • Underneath the arm

While tapping, recite a reminder phrase to maintain focus on your problem area. If your setup phrase is, “Even though I worried about how I am going to get clients…” your reminder phrase can be, “The worry I feel about getting clients.”  or simply “getting clients.” Recite this phrase at each tapping point. Repeat this sequence two or three times.

At the end of your sequence, check in with how intensely you are still feeling. If it hasn’t gone down enough, repeat this process until you feel a positive shift. 

It might feel good to end with a cycle of a positive statement like “Even though in the past, I would get stuck on how things were going to work out, I now know that the Universe supports my desires and I can draw in my dream clients with ease and create a beautiful thriving business I love.”

You can also tap in public by just tapping on the side of your hand (karate chop point) or the outside of the eye on one side.

Tips: Begin to notice when your attitude or energy shifts or you are stuck in negative thoughts. Then use this technique to help you shift out of it. Once you begin to use this regularly, you will love how empowered you feel. Enjoy!

4-Minute Pep Talk Meditation

Last week I got back from having the most amazing time presenting at Craftcation in Ventura, California.

One of the neat things about this event was the Pep Talk Wall they created where attendees could add encouraging words to share and others could take the ones they needed to hear.

I started using them in some of the daily mediations I was leading during the conference. I love them so much that I thought it would be fun to share a short 4-minute Pep Talk Meditation that you can listen to any time you need an energetic boost!

You can simply read the messages below or watch the video and make it a meditation. Enjoy!

I am grateful for myself just the way I am.

I don’t have to be amazing at everything.

I can let myself have fun and make a mess.

I am more than enough.

I am precious.

My presence improves the world.

Everything is going to be okay.

I am amazing.

I am beautiful.

I am enough.

I am a badass.

I embrace my weird.

I’m right where I belong.

I am worthy of everything good.

I am creative.

What other people think of me is none of my business.

I am fabulous.

Everything I put into the world is worthy.

I am worthy of everything good.

I am perfect and beautiful in my own way.

I can choose to live the life I want to live.

When I embrace my flaws, they become part of my magic.

I can do difficult things.

I believe in myself.

I can do anything I set my mind to.

Anything is possible when I think abundantly.

I love my body.

My heart knows the answer.

Everything is going to be okay.

I am magic.

I am beautiful.

I deserve this.

I am right where I belong.

Ritual For Anxiety

Something I’ve been doing in 2022 when I am feeling anxious or overwhelmed about situations and people I can’t control is lighting a candle for them.

Sometimes I even write a little message on a piece of paper and place it under the wax. 

Did you know that you can pull tea lights out of their containers? 

I cut little strips of paper, write down an intention or request, fold it up, place it in the tin, place the candle back on top, then I light the candle while thinking or saying my intention. (See photo above)

Example: Archangel Michael and Metatron, please watch over _______. Thank you.

I tend to say more than I write like, “Archangel Michael, can you please protect _______ from lower energies and Archangel Metatron, can you please nurture _______’s sensitive nature. Thank you.”

I have found that when I do this, it lessens my anxiety and allows me to be more open to see solutions or handle situations with a bit more calm.

You can also pick candles based on their colors or chakra association too. I share in the photos below info about Blue and the Throat chakra from my book, Tend To Your Vibration.

You don’t have to have any spiritual beliefs to do this either. You can ask the Universe, ancestors, or Mother Nature for help or simply light the candle as a way of easing your anxiety or worry.

What matters most are your thoughts and energy. 

I have already grown so much this year and this ritual for anxiety has helped me so much that I wanted to share it with you too.

Enjoy!

p.s. I like to ask Archangel Michael to protect, clear, and shield myself and my loved ones. Archangel Metatron is mentioned in the Talmud and some people believe is helpful with parenting sensitive children. 

Candle Gazing: Gift Yourself A Moment of Peace

I’m popping in to share a quick and simple way to give yourself a moment of peace this holiday season. 

It’s called Candle Gazing and it is a lesson from Tend To Your Vibration.

  • Light a taper candle and have it about a foot in front of you, preferably at eye level.
  • Gaze at the candle for one minute.
  • Close your eyes and imagine the flame at your third eye (the spot between your eyebrows) for two minutes. 
  • Cup your hands over your eyes and take a few breaths.

That’s it! 

This activity helps increase feelings of oneness with the universe and reduces feelings of separation.

I have been so busy lately and absolutely loving every second but my life flows better when I take these small moments so tend to my vibration.

I did this the other day and just love how fast I can create a sense of calm.

If you want to do this right now, I made a one-minute video of my candle flame for you to gaze at, and then you can set a timer for two minutes to close your eyes after or simply try to keep them closed longer than you gazed at the candle.

I like to use the Insight Timer app on my phone to create an interval timer so I don’t have to count or worry about messing with my phone during this short meditation. You simply set a 3-minute timer with an interval bell at one minute and an ending bell.

All the lessons in my Tend To Your Vibration guidebook help give you a moment of peace so you can enjoy life and allow more beautiful things to come into your experience.

Enjoy!

Introducing: Tend To Your Vibration – a guidebook

Tend To Your Vibration a guidebook

Take a moment and sit up tall, do some shoulder rolls, and take some deep breaths through your nose. Now imagine white light all around you and envision an animal next to you as your guide. Finish by saying something nice to yourself and smile.

Notice how you feel. Hopefully, you feel a little bit better than you did before. Enjoy these feelings. This is an example of tending to your vibration.

Your vibration is your emotional energy. Your vibration changes depending on how you feel and what you are focusing on. Your vibration is high when you are feeling good and trusting that life is working out for you. Your vibration is low when you are criticizing yourself and feeling stuck.

Your emotional energy acts as a magnet that draws more of what you are feeling into your life. Your vibration is created by you, your thoughts, how you feel physically, and what you spend time focusing on.

Basically, your thoughts create your emotions which create your vibration. When you tend to your vibration, you can begin to truly enjoy each moment while creating a life you love.

The word “tend” means to care for, look after, or give one’s attention to. This guidebook will help you tend to your emotions, environment, and vibration like you would a garden or your home. You will do this using nature, breath, thoughts, imagination, and energy.

The techniques shared are simple ways to help you enjoy life more and draw more things to enjoy into your life. They are a mix of my creations, ancient techniques from my yogic studies, tried and true life coaching exercises, along with energy work from my experience as an intuitive mentor.

You will become a magnet for your desires.

Tending to your vibration looks different for everyone. I share what has worked for me. Along the way, you will discover what works for you. All of it will help you become a more authentic version of yourself.

You will learn how to empower yourself and shift your energy to a higher vibration. If you commit to working on the tips and exercises, you will feel a massive positive shift in the flow and experience of your life. 

This work will help you enjoy life more and feel more confident in the choices you make. I am not saying you won’t have bad days. It’s important to feel all of your feelings.

The goal of the work I am sharing is to help you learn how to handle the ups and downs of life with more grace and ease. You will bounce back quicker and learn to catch yourself going negative faster.

You will learn how to tune out the world around you and tune into your inner wisdom. You will have the resources to change your mood, your thoughts, your breath, and your life.

Your life might change, or you might change how you look at your life. Or both! Either way, you will feel empowered by the work you do and happy that you have committed to bringing positive change into your life.

Take a moment and thank yourself for taking this time for yourself.

You might want to create a special place in which to do this work. This could be a room, a chair, a nook. Maybe just a basket or tray that will contain the tools you want around you as you work through this guide like candles, matches, incense, essential oils, etc. Make it yours.

You might like to get a journal to write down your reflections and responses or use the printable worksheets I created for you by visiting the Book Bonus section on my website.

There is a positive affirmation at the end of each lesson that you might like to incorporate into your life or possibly repeat when you are practicing the lessons. Notice the ones that make you feel really good and repeat them often.

Have fun with this guide! Think of it as a toolbox you can use to help you get unstuck, pumped up, relaxed, goal-oriented, and so on.

When you are first starting, you might like to keep your efforts private or share them with the world. Honor your feelings around how you share the time you take for yourself.

You will have different needs at different times, and this guide will feel like a comforting space to come back to help you tune in and remember who you really are.

Get ready! I hope you enjoy this journey of creating positive shifts and receiving abundance in every area of your life by tending to your vibration.

You are worthy of enjoying life, feeling good, and manifesting your dreams!

xo, Kerry

Tend To Your Vibration – a guidebook is here!

Here is what is new in this latest edition:

  • New title: Tend To Your Vibration (this is the original title I wanted so I am super happy for the opportunity to update it!).
  • New cover: Floral design by Kristen Fagan.
  • New size: The guidebook is now 7.5 x 9.25 instead of 8.5 x 11.
  • Edited introduction: The content above is from the new intro
  • Additional page of essential oil rituals: Also added to the bonus section for those who own the first edition!
  • Removed the words smudge and sage from the Clearing Your Space with Smoke and Sound lesson: I suggest rosemary, garden sage (different from white sage), and lavender.
  • Updated Bibliography and Recommended Reading: Which is available to see below.
  • New price: It is now $22.99.

Thank you so much for your support! This journey has actually helped me create a better version of my book that I am really confident about. I love that the universe brought me to this moment. I look forward to tending to our vibrations together!

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