With all of us under stay at home orders it is easy to have feelings of wanderlust and deep cravings to feel free.
So often we allow outside circumstances and other people’s behavior to keep us from feeling like free spirits.
That is magnified right now.
I want to share a few tweaks and tips that will help you live like a free spirit while in quarantine and beyond!
1. Travel Without Leaving Home
In the last few weeks, I have been to Stonehenge, Paris, Mexico, the beach, and Italy.
Let me show you how.
In my Tapping into your Intuition Lesson in my Free Spirit Guidebook, I share a meditation that leads you to a natural setting where you can sit, relax, and listen to your intuition.
You can try this too! Take some deep breaths, close your eyes, and imagine you are somewhere beautiful. Walk around. Notice the sites and smells. Take some time to relax here. So where did you go? A waterfall? A mountain top?
Let your mind decide or go somewhere you love visiting.
My next tip is to play music from different areas of the world. When it is Taco Tuesday, I play Mariachi music. When I am making spaghetti, I listen to Italian music. Last week, I made a special dinner, drank wine while I cooked and listened to French Jazz.
It was magical! You don’t have to combine it with cooking either. You can dance, read, daydream, etc.
2. Take a Social Media & News Break
If you are always checking social media and the news then you are on a constant ride of other people’s opinions and experiencing information overload.
It can leave you feeling confused, upset, cranky, jealous, annoyed, guilty, and so on. Then you might think that you should be feeling this way.
If you want to be a free spirit in this world then you need to tune it out sometimes.
It feels really good to engage in activities without also always checking your closest screen. The activity can be napping, journaling, cooking, or writing your next book.
There is a certain freedom that comes from not feeling influenced by everything going on and everyone around you.
I dedicated a whole section to breathing in my book. It has been my first line of defense during this pandemic.
I know you are technically breathing all of the time but doing it with intention can shift your energy fast.
Right now, inhale deeply through your nose and exhale with a sigh out of your mouth. Try it 2 more times. This is so helpful when your heart rate is up after watching the news or talking to a negative family member.
Want to feel calmer? Close your right nostril and breath through your left one. Want some energy? Close your left nostril and breathe through your right one.
These are the Moon and Sun Breaths from my book and can find more breathing techniques here: https://www.kerryburki.com/category/breathing-techniques/.
Bonus: If you are looking to start a meditation practice, you can use your breath to help you get started. Do any of the breaths mentioned above for 1 minute. Use the timer on your phone.
Then allow your breath to relax. Sit and observe your breath. Any thought that pops up, simply label it as a thought and let it flow away. Try this for another minute or two.
Viola! You have just meditated. Some days you will have tons of thoughts and other days your mind will feel calmer. Give yourself grace and keep practicing.
4. Change Your Thoughts
This is pretty much non-negotiable if you feel like your mind is filled with negative thoughts and negative self-talk.
Here is an example: I had to go to the store earlier this week and once I was there I started to feel overwhelmed and kept thinking people were too close and how can this really be happening right now.
I recognized these thoughts, took a deep breath, and then changed my thoughts. I started saying to myself, “I am safe. I am healthy. I am okay. These people are safe, they are healthy, they are okay.”
I immediately felt more relaxed and was able to finish my shopping trip in peace. You could get hung up and say to me that you don’t know if that is true or not about the other people being safe, healthy and okay.
Here’s the thing, it doesn’t matter. You can’t control that. You CAN CONTROL your thoughts.
Start being aware and then keep choosing better ones. You will notice a difference in how you feel. This one activity can change your life when you make a habit of it.
5. Forgive Yourself
However you are reacting right now is perfect for you. All of our reactions are based on our life experiences.
If you don’t like how you are reacting, forgive yourself. It is hard to change when we are filled with guilt and shame. If you are upset about past decisions that are making this time harder, forgive yourself. It is harder to find a better path in the future if you are spending all of your time beating yourself up over past actions.
My favorite way to do this is using the Hawaiian Ho’oponopono Prayer: I forgive you. Thank you. I am sorry. I love you. (There are different variations of this and this one has worked best personally while working on myself.)
Want to take it deeper? Write down the things that you are beating yourself up about and then put your fingers on each one and say this prayer. When you allow forgiveness to enter your life, you create space for the life you want to show up. You are worthy of your own forgiveness.
You can pick one or pick them all.
I do want to say that if you are grieving right now then do not expect yourself to step into the role of a free spirit in traditional terms. Take care of yourself and ask for help if needed.
If you want to take this deeper, consider getting my Free Spirit Guidebook. It is filled with tips and techniques to help you get unstuck and in the flow of life.