Happy Friday! My birthday was this month and every year for the last 8 years or so I read a beautiful passage for April 6th from the book Journey to the Heart by Melody Beattie.
It strikes a chord deep within me every time I read it and I feel like sharing it this year. I often read this on different days throughout the year and also share it in yoga classes.
The journey I have been on in the last year has really helped me dig deep and I feel like I am finally living this passage fully. I still have lots to learn but I truly love myself like I never I have before.
That is a feeling I hope you feel or are working towards feeling too.
So much of my work is about slowing down for yourself and tuning in.
That is where the real magic is.
Be Present For Yourself
Learn to be present for yourself, fully present in a way that’s new and delightful. Be present for your thoughts and emotions. Be present for the gentle way in which your heart and body lead you on. Learn to be fully present for each step of your growth, each step of your journey.
Value yourself, who you are, what you think and feel, and how you grow. For many years you neglected yourself. It was as though you were unconscious of who your were, how you felt, what you believed. You believed that kept you safe, protected you from feelings you didn’t want to feel. You believed it was how you should live. No w you re learning another way. Survival is no longer enough. It does not meet the needs of your heart and your soul. Now you want to live fully and joyfully. To do that, you must be present for yourself.
Be fully present for others, too. Be present for their spirits, their emotions, the words they have to say to you, but especially be present for their hearts. You no longer have to fear losing or neglecting yourself if you are present for others. You can do this safely now. You will not be consumed by their need; you will not become trapped in the workings of their lives. And if your present for yourself, you’ll know how much presence to give others.
Be present for life-for the starlit skies and the chirping birds that sing in the morning sun. Be present for the earth and grass under your feet, for the feel of a snowflake in your hand, Be present for all the magic and mysteries of the universe.
But most of all, be present for yourself. Then your presence for others and life will naturally flow.
Take a deep breath and go be present for yourself.
Last week I saw this quote on social media and almost shared it immediately:
Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now.
Then I got to thinking about how it would actually be a little different for my life situation. So I rewrote my version:
Then I got thinking about how it would be different for your life situation. Then I started thinking about how each of your versions could really resonate with others and even help inspire others to take action.
Hanging around waiting for certain things to happen causes us miss out on the present awesome moment. I am saying this to help you realize that you are awesome now.
I have been sooooo guilty of waiting. The things I mention in my version are all things I waited for during the last few years and that I could still be waiting for. I stopped waiting and started seeking happiness everyday through things like meditation, playing with my kids, singing in the car, and positive affirmations.
Now it’s your turn. How would you fill in the blanks after “Stop waiting for ____________”?
Share yours in the comments!
Remember this: You are awesome. You have always been awesome and you will always be awesome. Those times when you felt like you weren’t awesome, guess what? You were awesome then too. XO!
Hello beautiful people! I was truly hoping to launch the 2nd issue of my magazine this week but things have changed. My husband’s uncle went into hospice care this week and we are going to visit him.
I know this is rather personal and I have learned that sharing my personal stuff is healing for me and sometimes for others too so I wanted to be honest.
When I feel that things are out of my control and I wish I could help, I try to end my days with a special meditation in which I envision that I am sending love and compassion from my heart to the whole world. When there are special people on my mind, I pause and focus on them for a bit during this meditation. I recorded this and shared it on Facebook at the end of last year after the Paris attacks and thought that this is a good time to share it here.
This is from my original Facebook post:
“It can feel overwhelming when there are a lot of bad things happening in the world and people disagreeing on how to handle them. It is hard not to feel helpless or hopeless. During these times I use a beautiful visualization that I want to share with you.
Close your eyes.
Take some deep breaths through your nose.
Then let your breath relax.
Picture your heart center.
Imagine love and compassion around your heart as light.
Pick a color for the light.
Let that light grow to encompass your whole body.
Let it grow to encompass your house or apartment building and all of the people in it.
Visualize it expanding to your neighborhood and city.
Then your state and country.
Then neighboring countries.
Then the whole world.
Visualize the whole world in your loving and compassionate light.
You are sending your positive and loving energy to every person, place and creature.
Open your eyes and continue on with your day or keep them closed and go to sleep.
This is a huge moment of truth for me. For a long time I have separated myself from how I behaved when I was younger. I wanted to focus on the person I wanted to be. As good as that can be, I am realizing that I will never thrive until I honor and admit a lot of my struggles because honestly they just keep popping up in new ways.
I have been doing a lot of work on myself in the last year and have learned that the more I share and get honest the easier it is for me to move forward. In the past, I wanted to forget bad behavior and poor choices and just move on. I have now finally slowed to down and looked at some of the underlying reasons behind my actions and choices. I have stuffed and hidden away so many feelings and didn’t really realize I was doing that. I didn’t realize that I wasn’t being completely myself.
Once I started to peel back layers and look closely, a lot of tears came up and keep coming up. I don’t wipe them away. That is what I used to do. Now I know that I need to feel those feelings, understand them and let them move through me so I can feel free and create the life I want instead of repeating the cycle of shoving them somewhere by trying to tune them out.
These feelings have been truly driving my work lately. I have felt like I couldn’t go forward until I talked about it more because my work is to help you feel beautiful and worthy of the very best in life. You might be able to tell that I am a bit nervous in this video. This is a big step for me. Thank you for creating space for me to share and for taking a moment to watch. I also share my tips for moving forward so you can join me on this journey.
Honestly, this is just the tip of the iceberg. I am going to keep sharing so I can truly feel beautiful and live my life as my true self. I am going to create space and opportunities for you to share and move forward too. If this resonated with you then you are in the right place. If you know someone who might benefit from this too, please share.
If you are ready to start owning your story, feeling beautiful and discovering your amazing self then start here:
There are 2 free printables of positive affirmations about beauty in Kerry magazine. Go print, hang and say them often!
Blog posts + free printables – I am exactly where I am supposed to be – I relax into the flow of life – I am worthy of the very best in life
I recorded a free guided meditation located at the bottom of this post. I am making more too.
Print out the worksheet at the back of my magazine to process some feelings and discover what step to take next.
If this seems daunting please don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Keep taking small steps forward. That is what I did and it prepared me for this deeper work. You are learning lessons right now. I have made more “bad” choices than most people I know. That fact used to paralyze me. Now that I am discovering why I made those choices I am feeling empowered and driven to help others.
I feel that if I had felt better about myself when I was younger then I might have made a more positive impact int he world than I have by now. I don’t mean that in a regretful way. I didn’t have the tools and neither did the people around me. I am learning from the past but not living there. The power is in the present moment. I am making that positive impact now. I want to help you make the positive impact you have dreamed of also. Then I want us to teach children how to feel good about themselves so they are not writing a post like this when they are 38.
Let’s do this! If you want to work directly with me then let’s chat! I have decided to take on 6 people willing to dig a bit deeper so they can feel beautiful and make a lasting positive change in their life and the lives of others. Click here for details, dates and pricing.
Are you ready to embrace yourself and say no to shame and guilt?
I am creating so much good stuff that will have you releasing the past, shedding tears (necessary ones!) and sharing your beautiful self. The next issue of Kerry Magazine arrives December 1st, plus look out for details about an amazing webinar and workshop and group coaching opportunity in January.
I honestly didn’t plan on writing all of this extra stuff after the video. It just flowed through me which matches what I have been learning that now is the time and waiting is not an option.
If you feel like sharing your thoughts I would love to hear them in the comments or privately at email@example.com.
Thanks again for being here and I love all of the work we are doing together. XO!